‘Tis the season – not just for the holidays, but for holiday proposals. In previous years, you may have noticed an uptick in pictures of couples announcing their engagement between November and January. This festive period evokes all kinds of romantic and sentimental feelings and as result, thousands of people across the country pop the question during this time. In fact, wedding experts found that Christmas, Christmas Eve, New Year’s Eve, and New Year’s Day are the most popular engagement days (in that order). But there are some people that believe a Christmas proposal or New Year’s Eve engagement is played out and too expected. As engagement ring designers (and therefore holiday engagement experts) we’re sharing what we’ve learned from clients that opt for holiday engagements (which is about 40% of them), and what you should consider before proposing in front of family or under the Christmas tree.

Proposing in Front of Family

(A perfect mountain-backdrop holiday proposal the The Kelly multi-diamond prong setting custom engagement ring).

There are great Christmas gifts and then there are unforgettable Christmas gifts. No matter when you propose, it’s guaranteed that your fiancée will want to show the ring to EVERYONE, including her family. If she has a super tight-knit family or only gets the chance to see them during the holidays, this may be the best time for you to propose. You’ll both get to share the special moment with your loved ones while everyone is in a relaxed setting and out of the day to day grind. It’s like a built-in engagement party! However, it’s important to remember that you need to propose to her either before you see your families, or soon after you’re with them, so she can get the most time showcasing her finger’s sparkly new addition.
Make The Proposal Personal
No matter what time of year you decide to propose, make sure you tailor the moment to your partner’s personality. Would she rather get engaged in private or will she enjoy being surrounded by family and friends during the big moment? Will she appreciate or resent the traditional aspect of a holiday proposal? Once you’ve figure that out, make sure to carve out a little time in the day where you two can simply enjoy the moment together. Whether that means stepping away from the Christmas dinner table post-question or getting an intimate drink together before going to your friend’s holiday party. The holidays are notoriously hectic and you’ll want to soak in your engagement day as much as you can.

(Any proposal is made that much more romantic during the holidays. This one features The Abby, a raw diamond octagon engagement ring).

Capture the Moment

Amidst family and holiday mayhem, it can be hard to remember to take pictures. Take our wour word for it, you and your partner will both want your proposal to be captured. On your end, it may be a good idea to have a family member ready to snap the moment you get on one knee. Or if you’d rather the proposal be a total surprise for everyone or make it just the two of you, hire a professional! The celebratory photos will make it easier to remember and cherish the special occasion years from now.
Plan Now for a Holiday Proposal
If you’re considering asking the big question in the near future, the approaching holiday season may be the ideal time to propose. But here’s the catch: the centerpiece of the moment, the ring, takes a lot of consideration, planning, and research and can take months. We create custom engagement rings in 5-8 weeks from start to finish, which can end up saving you time searching for the perfect ring, but still means you need to start planning well before Christmas even. So if this is the holiday season you know you’ll be proposing, you may want to start looking for the ring, well RIGHT NOW.

(This couple nails the proposal pic with The Meri nature inspired engagement ring).

If She Gets an Engagement Ring for Christmas, Do I Need to Give Her Another Gift?
There is debate over whether an engagement ring gets you off the hook for buying your significant other a Christmas present. The answer is complicated. Most people would agree that it largely depends on the couple and current circumstances. But trust us, another thoughtful gift under the tree – no matter how small – will add an extra touch of romanticism. Just be mindful that if you’re planning to propose on Christmas morning and something else gets in the way (hey, holidays and family are hectic!) then it’s not a bad idea to have a backup so she doesn’t think you forgot.

(There’s no time like the holiday season to create an intimate moment you’ll never forget, like this one. Featuring an east-west emerald cut engagement ring, The Jordan).

What if I Plan to Propose on Vacation?

If you are taking any kind of plane, train, or bus to get to your holiday destination, do NOT keep the engagement ring in your carry-on or checked bag. Make sure to have it on your person and carefully zippered away in a pocket. If you know your traveling with the ring, make sure to have it insured before you head off. An engagement ring is a big investment and it would be tragic to lose the ring, especially before the proposal even happens.

What if I don’t have the ring yet?

It’s no secret that the holidays are crazy. If you can’t find a ring in time for your holiday proposal that doesn’t mean you have to propose without one. Go for the loaner ring. The loaner ring allows you to propose with a sparkly stand-in while you nail her dream engagement ring. This is also a perfect option if you’d rather let her take the reins on choosing the design for her ring. It’s a win-win.

Whether you decide to propose in front of the Christmas tree, ringing in the new year, or aprés-ski this engagement season, the question will require planning and consideration. Make your holidays merrier and be thoughtful about what you believe she ideally imagines for the magic moment. Your proposal, over anything, is about you two and the life you hope to share together.